Are you a mother who is having a hard time controlling your teenage daughter or a father who is getting calls from the school’s principal complaining that your daughter has roughed up some other kid really bad? Teens are known to exhibit unusual behaviors and violence is not an exception. As a parent or a guardian it may be really difficult to deal with violent teenage girls. With boys things can be understood and punishing them or disciplining them can be managed, but with young girls you really have to be careful as punishing them should not make you feel guilty.
Girls in their teens go through a lot of emotions and they are still immature in handling them as compared to grown up women. At times when some things do not go well with them, not understanding what to do or say in such situations, the immediate reaction is mostly violent in nature. Being violent does not necessarily mean causing harm to the opposite person, self-harming is also violence, throwing things around or breaking stuff is a lesser degree of violence, but yes it’s violence. Hope you will agree with me.
What can be done to decrease the violent behavior in teenage girls?
Well, according to a survey done in 2008 on 1312 students of four New York’s inner-city high schools the researchers from the Columbia University analysed a co-relation between exercise and violent behavior. In the survey population, 56 percent of the respondents were female, 19 percent were African-American and almost three-quarters were Latino.
The students here in the survey were asked various questions like if they were into some sports team, when did they run really long in the past four weeks, did they carry any weapon in the past 30 days or were they a part of a gang.
The results showed that girls who exercise were less likely to develop violent behavior. The key findings were:
- Girls who had done more than 20 sit-ups in the month previous to taking the survey were less likely to carry a weapon or be a part of a gang.
- Girls who ran for more than 20 minutes the last time they ran were less likely to carry a weapon.
- Girls who had exercised for more than 10 days in the last month were less likely to be a part of a gang.
- Girls who have been into team sports in the previous year were less likely to carry a weapon, have been in a fight, or be a part of a gang.
The researchers found that there was no link between exercise and violent behavior in male participants.
Well from the results mentioned above it is pretty clear that a healthy body will have a healthy mind as well. If your daughter is very low on physical activeness it can be matter of concern. I know how difficult it is put a teenager into something which she doesn’t like. You cannot push somebody into sports, one needs to have love and passion for a particular game. But to exercise at this tender age it doesn’t have to be sports all the time. Oh yes, it’s great if your girl is willing to join a sports team, as being on a sports team teaches a lot of values and discipline.
If your daughter is not into sports you need to find what interests her. Dance forms like ballet is a great option and so is going around cycling with friends from the neighborhood. If you love to jogging, then encourage your daughter to join you. Skipping ropes, one of the favorite games girls like to play in their childhood should be played in the teenage as well. Also swimming and trekking on weekends would be simply great.
Not just for a violent behavior but you know what is sedentary lifestyle is doing to all of us. You definitely don’t want your sweetheart to go thorough all that. So it’s better to produce an interest in something for your daughter if she is not physically active enough. A healthy teenage will help tremendously in having a healthy middle age and old age. There can be no other better gift than a healthy lifestyle that you can give to your daughter.
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